Wenn jemand das Gelübde seiner Frau annahm, nicht zum Haus der Trauer oder zum Haus des Festes zu gehen, sendet er sie aus und gibt ihr ihre Kethuba, denn er schließt sich vor ihr ab [die Tür der Freude und der Linderung der Trauer; und als Haus der Trauer schließt er sich vor ihr ab (die "Tür der Laudatio"), denn morgen kann sie sterben, und niemand wird sie preisen. Und wenn er behauptete (dass er das Gelübde einhielt), weil "etwas anderes" (als bekannt war, dass zersplitterte Männer dort waren), ist er berechtigt (das Gelübde einzuhalten). Wenn er zu ihr sagte: (Ich werde dich von deinem Gelübde befreien) nur unter der Bedingung, dass du zu diesem Mann [die erniedrigenden Dinge] sagst, die du zu mir gesagt hast oder dass ich zu dir gesagt habe, oder unter der Bedingung, dass sie sich füllt und gießt es in den Mist [Einige sagen (die Bedeutung ist): Nach dem Geschlechtsverkehr, wenn ihr Leib voller Samen ist, soll sie es duschen, damit sie nicht schwanger wird. Andere: Sie soll zehn Krüge Wasser auffüllen und in den Mist gießen (in diesem Fall scheint sie verstört zu sein). Er schickt sie hinaus und gibt ihr ihre Kethuba.
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שנועל בפניה – the door of joy and the removal of sorrow, and to the house of mourning, he locks it (i.e., the door) in her face, for tomorrow she may die, and no one will eulogize her.
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English Explanation of Mishnah Ketubot
Introduction
Mishnah five continues to discuss husbands who attempt to prevent their wives from doing certain things.
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דבר אחר מחמת – as for example, that under the presumption that lawless human beings are found there.
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If a man forbade his wife by vow from visiting a house of mourning or a house of feasting, he must divorce her and give her the ketubah, because he has closed [peoples doors] against her. A husband cannot prohibit his wife from paying a condolence call to a house of mourning or from celebrating at a wedding. The mishnah reasons that he cannot do so for by preventing her from participating in others’ sorrows or joy, they will in return not visit her when she is mourning or celebrating one of her children’s weddings. However, if he claims that his vow had a “cause”, which in the mishnah usually is a euphemism for sexual licentiousness, he may prohibit her from going. In other words, if he fears that there will be illicit goings-on at the house of mourning, or more likely at the house of feasting, he may prohibit her from going there.
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שתאמרי לפלוני וכו' – things of degradation/disgrace.
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If he claims [that his vow] was due to some other cause he is permitted [to forbid her]. If he said to her: “[There shall be no prohibition] provided you tell so-and-so what you have told me” or “what I have told you” or “that you will fill and pour out in the garbage”, he must divorce her and give her the ketubah. A husband cannot use a vow to force his wife to engage in behavior that will embarrass her. He cannot force her to tell others secret things that he has told her or that she has told him. The last phrase of this mishnah “fill and pour out in the garbage” is interpreted in two ways in the Talmud. One interpretation is that it literally means that she should fill up jugs with water and then pour the water out into the garbage, an act that others will (rightfully) interpret as crazy. Alternatively, it may be a euphemism for “spilling seed” (the man’s interrupting his intercourse with her). A husband cannot force his wife to allow him to engage in such an act. If he does so, she may demand a divorce and receive her ketubah.
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שתהא ממלאה ומערה לאשפה – there are those who interpret that after she has sexual intercourse and her womb is filled with semen, it would shake it out in order that the seed won’t be absorbed and she will become pregnant. And there are those who interpret that she will fill ten pitches of water and she will pour them out to the ground, because she appears as a women suspected of infidelity by her husband.
