Ein Bräutigam, der in seiner Hochzeitsnacht das Schema rezitieren möchte, kann dies tun. R. Shimon b. Gamliel sagte: "Nicht alle, die den Namen annehmen wollen, dürfen dies tun." [Wenn er in anderen Angelegenheiten nicht als Weiser und Porush (heilig) anerkannt wird, ist dies nichts als Stolz, der sich auf beispielhafte Konzentrationskräfte stürzt. Die Halacha entspricht nicht R. Shimon b. Gamliel. Wir finden einige unserer Rabbiner, die sagen, dass heute alle Männer das Schema in ihrer Hochzeitsnacht rezitieren sollten. Denn da wir es in diesen Generationen an all den anderen Tagen nicht mit großer Konzentration rezitieren, würde ein Bräutigam, wenn er das Schema in seiner Hochzeitsnacht nicht rezitierte, noch hochmütiger erscheinen und den Eindruck erwecken, dass er sich zu allen anderen Zeiten außer konzentriert dies, mit der Mizwa beschäftigt zu sein.]
Bartenura on Mishnah Berakhot
לא כל הרוצה ליטול את השם יטול – If he is not considered a Sage and someone distinguished in other things, it would only be considered as excessive pride if he would attempt to show that he can demonstrate spiritual intentionality. And the Halakha does not follow Rabban Gamaliel. And we see that some of our Rabbis who say that nowadays, any person can recite the Shema on the first night (following their wedding) since in these generations, there is not that much spiritual intention on the other days and if he didn’t recite [the Shema] on the first night (following his wedding), it would appear like a greater haughtiness if he is able [to recite the Shema] with spiritual intentionality, in every hour other than now, because of his concern of fulfilling the Mitzvah of “being fruitful and multiplying.”
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English Explanation of Mishnah Berakhot
Introduction
In mishnah five we learned that Rabban Gamaliel recited the Shema on the first night of his marriage, even though he was exempt. Today we read of a debate between later sages whether Rabban Gamaliel action sets a precedent for others who might wish to recite the Shema on their wedding night.
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English Explanation of Mishnah Berakhot
If a bridegroom wants to recite the Shema on the first night [of his marriage], he may do so. Rabban Shimon ben Gamaliel says: not everyone who desires to take up the name of God may do so. According to the first opinion in the mishnah, just as Rabban Gamaliel recited the Shema on the first night of his wedding, so too anybody can. Rabban Shimon ben Gamaliel, Rabban Gamaliel’s own son, says that his father was an exception. Not everyone can accept upon himself the responsibility of saying the Shema in a situation in which the sages exempted the person. Rabban Shimon ben Gamaliel seems to have an almost entirely different conception of halakhah. Whereas his father considered the halakhah to be geared to the “normal” or “typical” situation and allowed deviations under abnormal circumstances, his son limits these deviations. According to Rabban Shimon ben Gamaliel, halakhah is not just a descriptive norm, but a mandated norm, and even though one does not feel that he fits into this norm, the halakhah establishes that he must. In our case, if one feels that he is capable of concentrating sufficiently to recite the Shema on his wedding night, he is still not allowed to do so. The halakhah mandates his exemption and doesn’t just allow him to not recite it. It seems to me that later halakhah is more often understood in the terms of Rabban Shimon ben Gamaliel. Halakhah mandates laws across the board, usually not making exceptions for the individual psyche. But this is far too broad a topic for this forum.
