If one accepted his wife's vow not to go to the house of mourning or to the house of feasting, he sends her out and gives her her kethubah, for he locks before her [the door of joy and alleviation of sorrow; and, re the house of mourning, he locks before her (the "door of eulogy"), for on the morrow she may die, and none will eulogize her. And if he claimed (that he upheld the vow) because of "something else" [as when it were known that dissolute men were there], he is permitted (to uphold the vow). If he said to her: (I shall absolve you of your vow) only on condition that you say to that man [the demeaning things] that you said to me or that I said to you, or on condition that she fill up and pour it into the dung [Some say (the meaning is): After intercourse, when her womb is full of seed, she is to douche it, so that she not conceive. Others: She is to fill up ten pitchers of water and pour them into the dung (in which instance she seems deranged)], he sends her out and gives her her kethubah.
Tosefta Ketubot
If he made her vow that she shouldn't go to a funeral or a wedding, he sends her out and pays her ketubah, for tomorrow she will be lying dead and there will be nobody to care for her. Rabbi Meir used to say: [Whatever] you do, they will do for you; if you accompany [the corpse], they will accompany you[r corpse]; if you join the funeral procession, they will join your procession; if you bury, they will bury you. (Sic!, the Ehrfurt manuscript doesn't have the verse from Kohelet).
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Tosefta Ketubot
If he made her vow that she give her dish to taste to every man, or that she should fill [buckets] and pour [them] on a rubbish heap, or that she should say to every man things that are private to the couple—he sends her out and pays her ketubah since he did not act with her according to the custom of Moshe and Yisrael. And so too if she goes out with her head uncovered, with her shoulders (sic!, Ehrfurt manuscript has צדדיה over בגדיה) bared, or if she is too proud towards her slaves or her neighbours, if she spins [flax] in the street, if she washes in the bathhouse with every man—she goes out without her ketubah since she did not act with him according to the custom of Moshe and Yisrael. Rabbi Meir (sic!, manuscripts have Rabbi Meir) says: If he knows about her that he causes her to vow but she doesn't fulfil them, he should no longer vow about her. Rabbi Yehudah says: If he knows about her that she does not take out the hallah, he should fix it after her. Which is a kolanit (see Mishnah Ketubot 7:6)? Anyone who talks in her house and her neighbours hear her.
