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Related for Ketubot 1:1

בְּתוּלָה נִשֵּׂאת לַיּוֹם הָרְבִיעִי, וְאַלְמָנָה לַיּוֹם הַחֲמִישִׁי. שֶׁפַּעֲמַיִם בַּשַּׁבָּת בָּתֵּי דִינִין יוֹשְׁבִין בָּעֲיָרוֹת, בַּיּוֹם הַשֵּׁנִי וּבַיּוֹם הַחֲמִישִׁי, שֶׁאִם הָיָה לוֹ טַעֲנַת בְּתוּלִים, הָיָה מַשְׁכִּים לְבֵית דִּין:

A virgin is married on the fourth day [and not on the night preceding the fifth day, for we apprehend that he might then be preoccupied with the wedding and not be able to cohabit], and a widow on the fifth day. For the batei-din convene in the cities twice a week, on the second day and the fifth day, so that if he have a claim of (absence of) virginity, [such as: "I cohabited and did not find blood," whether she be a minor, a na'arah, or a bogereth, or: "I found an open door," if she were a minor or a na'arah (but not if she were a bogereth)], he can rise early to beth-din [when his anger is still upon him, lest he be assuaged and "cool off," and keep her; and it may be that she were adulterous under him (i.e., during the time of betrothal), in which instance she is forbidden to him. The gemara asks: Let him marry her on the first day, and if he has a claim of virginity, he can rise early to beth-din on the second day. And it answers: The sages were solicitous of the welfare of the daughters of Israel, that the groom occupy himself with the (wedding) feast three days: the first, second, and third day, and that on the fourth day he marry her. And when batei-din do not sit on the second and fourth days, a woman can be married on any day, provided that he occupy himself with the feast for three days. And out of solicitude for the poor, it is the custom in some places to marry on Sabbath eve. The reason that a widow is wed on the fifth day is that the sages were solicitous of the welfare of the daughters of Israel, so that (in this instance) he can rejoice with her three days — the fifth, the sixth, and the Sabbath. One who marries a widow is forbidden to work for three days and one who marries a virgin may not work all seven. As to birchath chathanim ("the blessings of the groom"), both a man being married for the first time, who weds a widow, and a widower who weds a virgin, bless birchath chathanim all seven days. And a widower who weds a widow blesses birchath chathanim one day.]

Tosefta Ketubot

Why did they say that a virgin was married on Wednesday? For if he had a virginity claim, he would get up early to go to court. If so, let her be married on Sunday! Rather, because they could attend to all their needs for as many days of the week as possible, they decreed that he should marry her on Wednesday. From the danger and onwards, they decreed that he should marry on Tuesday, and the Sages did not object to them. If he wants to get married on Monday, they do not listen to him. If it is because of factors beyond their control, it is allowed. Why do the groom and bride separate on the first Friday night? Because he would make a bruise [when causing her to lose her virginity, and it is forbidden to cause a wound on Shabbat]. Why did they say that a widow should be married on Thursday? Because, if he married her on Sunday, the rest of the week he would leave her and go back to work; they decreed that he should marry her on Thursday, in order that he should be idle for 3 days (Thursday, Friday, Saturday), and through these idle days, it would result in him being happy with her for 3 days.
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