Mesorat%20hashas for Nedarim 5:6

הַמֻּדָּר הֲנָאָה מֵחֲבֵרוֹ וְאֵין לוֹ מַה יֹּאכַל, נוֹתְנוֹ לְאַחֵר לְשׁוּם מַתָּנָה, וְהַלָּה מֻתָּר בָּהּ. מַעֲשֶׂה בְאֶחָד בְּבֵית חוֹרוֹן שֶׁהָיָה אָבִיו מֻדָּר הֵימֶנּוּ הֲנָאָה, וְהָיָה מַשִּׂיא אֶת בְּנוֹ, וְאָמַר לַחֲבֵרוֹ, חָצֵר וּסְעוּדָה נְתוּנִים לְךָ בְמַתָּנָה, וְאֵינָן לְפָנֶיךָ אֶלָּא כְדֵי שֶׁיָּבֹא אַבָּא וְיֹאכַל עִמָּנוּ בַּסְּעוּדָה. אָמַר לוֹ, אִם שֶׁלִּי הֵם, הֲרֵי הֵם מֻקְדָּשִׁין לַשָּׁמָיִם. אָמַר לוֹ, לֹא נָתַתִּי אֶת שֶׁלִּי שֶׁתַּקְדִּישֵׁם לַשָּׁמָיִם. אָמַר לוֹ, לֹא נָתַתָּ לִּי אֶת שֶׁלְּךָ אֶלָּא שֶׁתְּהֵא אַתָּה וְאָבִיךָ אוֹכְלִים וְשׁוֹתִים וּמִתְרַצִּים זֶה לָזֶה, וִיהֵא עָוֹן תָּלוּי בְּרֹאשׁוֹ. וּכְשֶׁבָּא דָבָר לִפְנֵי חֲכָמִים, אָמְרוּ, כָּל מַתָּנָה שֶׁאֵינָהּ שֶׁאִם הִקְדִּישָׁהּ אֵינָהּ מְקֻדֶּשֶׁת, אֵינָהּ מַתָּנָה:

If one bevows benefit from his neighbor, and he (the first) has nothing to eat, he (the neighbor) may give it to another as a gift, and this one (the first) is permitted to (eat it). It happened with one in Beth Choron that his father had bevowed benefit from him. [The gemara explains that something is lacking in our Mishnah and that this is what is meant: "And if the end 'sheds light' on the beginning, it is forbidden. And it also happened in Beth Choron that "one's end shed light on his beginning, etc."] He (the son) was marrying off his son and he said to his neighbor: "The courtyard and the feast are given to you as a gift, and they are given to you only so that my father may come and partake of the feast with us." [It is clear in this instance that he gave them only so that his father should come and eat, and this is forbidden. But if he said: "Here they are, and, if you will, let Father come and eat," this is permitted. And if the meal itself "sheds light," i.e., if he prepared a lot more than was needed (for the other), it being clear that he did so, so that his father come and eat, it is forbidden.] He (the other) said to him: "If they are mine, they are dedicated to Heaven." The son: "I did not give you what is mine so that you could dedicate it to Heaven!" The other: "You gave me what was yours only so that you and your father could eat and drink and be reconciled with each other, and the sin (of vows) will be on my head!" And when the sages were apprised of this, they said: Any gift "which is not," which if he (the receiver) dedicates it, is not dedicated, is not a gift.

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